There are things that come with the territory of being a musician/artist, such as: doing many performances for “exposure” (free), having to sing about your life problems in the form of prose, eating way healthier than you ever wanted to, and…dealing with the comments of people who simply don’t understand what you’re going through. Todays blog will center around these comments. I’m sure these people don’t mean to sound judgmental or rude, but sometimes it comes across that way.
I’ve asked my fellow musicians to help me come up with a comprehensive list of things people have said to us that, well, we wish they would stop saying. So, if you’re a musician, maybe you can commiserate with me and know that we are all going through the same thing. And, if you’re not a musician, maybe this can give you some insight into some of the things we have to deal with on a daily basis.
“How long are you going to try and do this before you get a real job?” I know this is crazy, but I’m actually going to “try” it….FOREVER!
“So, do you have a real job?” I believe your definition of “real” is different than mine.
“What do you MEAN you can’t play that song?!” I know it’s crazy, but my music degree didn’t have a class called, “Every Song Ever Written.”
“What do you MEAN you’ve never heard of [insert really random, obscure musician]” Also, I don’t know every musician that has ever walked the planet. I’m sorry to disappoint.
“So you’re an aspiring artist.” At a certain point, you just wish people would stop saying you’re “aspiring” when you’re actually just “doing!”
“You sound like Justin Bieber” The reason this is not a compliment, besides the Justin Bieber part, is that artists and bands spend years crafting their unique sound and hope to bring something original to the music world. When you tell us we sound like someone else, you’re pretty much crushing all of our hopes and dreams.
“Is your wife cool with you being a musician?” I feel like this is getting into personal, inappropriate territory…and yes, I’m sure she’s OK with it. Musicians are awesome.
“Are you making a living off of only music?” or "How much do you really make?" Somehow talking about money is a faux-pas for every other career, unless you’re addressing a musician.
“So music is your hobby?” Trust me, I could choose a lot less stressful and less challenging “hobbies.”
“You should try out for American Idol, The Voice, X-Factor, America’s Got Talent!” I take it this is the only thing you know about the music business.
“Sing something for me right now!” Is there money in this for me?
“Are you good?” Yes.
“My second cousin once removed foot doctor’s grandson is a big artist and plays 1,000,000 shows per year.” ….Cool…
“[insert any unsolicited advice about the music business from someone not in the music business]”
If you’ve ever said these things, we still love you. I mean, we want you to stop saying them, but we know you probably have a heart of gold and are just trying to help us out. And let’s face it, musicians have been known to be a little insecure and can take things too personally, so we get it. We appreciate you wanting the best for us, and we couldn’t get through this crazy life without the people who support us through the thick and thin.
Sometimes I think I'm crazy. But sometimes, I think I know exactly what I'm doing.