While doing my daily perusing of Facebook, I couldn't help but notice Jennifer Lawrence's Vanity Fair article. This news event always had me curious because I wanted to know why she took the pictures. I always thought- if you want to see yourself naked, can't you just look in a mirror? But, luckily I found my answer in the article, and it made me see a whole new light to this debate.
Her reason is, "I was in a loving, healthy, great relationship for four years. It was long distance, and either your boyfriend is going to look at porn or he’s going to look at you.”
Wait, what? Or, you can find a better boyfriend, who doesn't look at porn, and then you don't have to take naked pictures of yourself, and then they won't get leaked!
And here, my friends, is the problem. I think we can all agree that stealing other people's property is wrong, and therefore I have no qualms with people ranting that this is a crime. What I do have a problem with, is that this all stems with Jennifer trying to please a man who, if not pleased, will look for pleasure elsewhere.
I'm done giving boys this extra pat on the back that says, "Well you're just 'wired' that way, so sure, go look at those pictures, videos, strippers, etc." No. He can resist. He can not look at those things, and he can be content with what he has. If he's finding satisfaction in someone else other than you, he's cheating. And if you think he's going to look at porn if he doesn't see you for weeks at a time, then you need to be with someone else!
I'm not a bible scholar, but I can't help but think that the curse in Gensis is still plaguing women today. "Your desire shall be for your husband and he shall rule over you." Doesn't that seem interesting-- that the curse is your desire for your husband? Was Eve's desire not for her husband before? And why is that a curse? At first glance, it would seem that desire for your husband would make for a healthy relationship! But, at second glance, it makes me feel that maybe it's this innate desire to please men that's really the curse. It's why so many women stay with someone who is beating them. It's why we want to look beautiful no matter the cost. It's why so many blogs are about being content as a single woman- because women clearly aren't content being single! Is this the desire that's been cursed to us? I'm ready for a change. I'm ready to take back the natural order. I'm ready to go back to the way God originally meant us to be, where our desire was for our Heavenly Creator and that we would live in perfect unity with him.
I'm calling all men to step up, resist the temptation, and become worthy of their women. I'm calling all women to step up and live with dignity and self worth. I feel that if we all did this, then maybe, just maybe, we'd have less nude pictures to leak.
Sometimes I think I'm crazy. But sometimes, I think I know exactly what I'm doing.