You know those girls who have their wedding planned by age 8? The ones that have a binder/scrapbook/thingy, full of ideas and magazine cut-outs, that weighs more than an elephant? The girls that buy every wedding magazine for $7.00 at the grocery store and have been "pintresting" their engagement ring for years upon years? Well...I applaud these women...because they know what they are doing, while I, on the other hand, have no clue.
I have never been that wide-eyed, 8-year-old-wedding planner. In fact, I never even really wanted a wedding dress because it just seems illogical to me that people spend thousands of dollars on a dress they'll never wear again. (Where are my logical thinkers at--please tell me I am not alone in this! It makes no sense!) And not only do you wear the dress one time, but you also spend upwards of $20,000 for ONE PARTY. (The average wedding in America, according to costofwedding.com, costs $25,000) AHHHH My logical mind gets stressed out even thinking about it! So much so, that I even toyed with the idea of just eloping and putting the money my parents told me I could spend straight into the savings account. But, alas, my mom convinced me with the line, "You only get married once!" and now I'm planning a wedding, with a wedding dress, and a pintrest board….so here we are.
The first thing I did when I knew I would have a wedding to plan was contact my cousin and Maid of Honor, Jeana. I've seen her adding to her wedding pintrest for a while, so I figured she knew what was up-- and I was right! The first thing she asked me was, "What are your colors?" I immediately welled up with pride because I knew the answer to this. The venue is decorated in purple and green, so naturally I responded, "I am going to have purple and green as my colors!" She responded, "What shade of purple?” Uh oh.This threw my pride for a loop because I didn't think far enough to the exact shade. After many arduous assessments, I determined that the venue's shade of purple was more of a mulberry. But then, it was hard to find mulberry bridesmaids dresses...so I expanded my horizons to other hues. After experiencing a real-life 50 Shades of Purple, I settled on plum. And that only took me about a month to figure out.
After breathing a sigh of relief that the shade of purple was taken care of, I started moving on to other things- like the wedding dress! Of course the only decision I made with the dress was that I didn’t want to spend a lot of money, so I had not adequately prepared for all the possible options. When I got to the bridal boutique, they asked “What kind of dress are you looking for?” and I expertly said, “Um…white?” Luckily after trying on a few different styles, I narrowed down my options and ended up with a great and cheapish dress (well, except for the alterations I have to get done…which actually knocks it out of the cheap category-can we talk about how they never have wedding dresses in your exact size?! Someone blog about that...).
I still have many innocuous things to get done on my to-do list, such as flowers for the bridesmaids and what candle package I should get, but there are also other things on my to-do list, like, “buy a house.” So while I am 50 shades of purple trying to juggle booking my shows for the year, writing new songs, rehearsing with my band, working at my day job, and teaching voice lessons, I still try to find time for this wedding madness. Maybe soon I will find flowers for the bridesmaids...who knows what tomorrow will bring?!
Me and the family, saying "Yes to the Dress"
Sometimes I think I'm crazy. But sometimes, I think I know exactly what I'm doing.